Hi Lisa,
Welcome to this wonderful site but I wish you didn't have to find us. I was diagnosed stage IV tongue cancer, had total glossectomy, neck dissection both sides (5 nodes positive), underwent 37 rad treatments combined with chemo and I'm coming up on my one year anniversary which is November 6! It's been one hell of a year but as you can see, treatments (whatever your doctors recommend) are doable. I've amazed myself (and my doctors) in that I'm able to speak pretty darn good and am eating solid foods. You're staging sounds as if it's not as severe as mine was but listen to your doctors advice and use everything you can to beat this the first time around. One of my regrets is not finding this site before or while I was undergoing treatments so I wasn't as well prepared as you will be in asking the right questions before deciding your treatment plan. Keep asking questions and someone here will have an answer. Keep us posted.
Hugs, Nancy