Thanks for all your replys as usual this is always a place to come to and get support. It really helps. The oncologist per my husband said cancer or not he recommended no biopsy just get it out.But my husband was also the one who after 45 min of graphic description of chemo and radiation said to me "I hope I don't throw up"
The surgeon said it was small in one spot and cancer.I was there and after a very detailed explanation my husband said. " i don't get why I have to stay in the hospital a week". He plans to meet with both of us after the breathing test and before surgury and made sure I knew he needed me to come.I quess he noticed the denial too.I worked in the operating room for 15 years and I do know what happens I showed my husband a basic drawing of a lung minus a little peice and we were back in denial "What do I want to look at that for?" So he likes his denial and there is where I'm leaving him . The hardest part for me is to shut up so sorry I use all of you for venting and owe you all a lot for listening and caring. The breathing test is next Fri and his comment was I hope he doesn't book anything a couple of days after that I guess he ignored the about 10 days and I'll do surgury part.He's worried about finding more cancer What's next but I told him to cheer up at leastr it's not the part of your anatomy that all guys worry so much about and got a half a smile.I pray for all of you that you all stay well and for those of you who have greater problems than you should have to deal with that you find peace with yourself and never give up . Your words are important to all of us .
Thanks Diane