Welcome, Tom...Sorry you have to be here, but you are at the right place. Thank goodness you have family and friends around you. Share with them at every stage. Don't decide that you have "burdened them enough." That's when you begin to hide from them and try to carry too much by yourself and rob from them the privilege of giving of themselves to you. AND don't stop coming here. Nobody really understands your situation as well as someone who has gone through it. Welcome. I hope you find answers and comfort here.