Hello Zoe,
My husband and I were also hit with the "C" word in late February. Kyle had a lump on his tongue and ended up having surgery, lymph nodes removed and then chemo/radiation. I'm happy to say he's done with chemo and tomorrow is his last radiation treatment. It's been a crazy 4 months. You will get through it. The time has gone fast for me but I'm assuming not so fast for my husband. I flat out asked my husband what I could do to help him and his big request was to keep the kids away so he could have more quiet time. He's been very tired these past few weeks. So, I take my baby and toddler out for a few hours each day to give him more quiet time. He did not have a Peg Tube and has lost a lot of weight. EAting is very difficult for him. He's hardly eating or drinking much now. He was pretty much himself the first few weeks. Then his tongue got very sore, he's had two infections (yeast infections) in his mouth, his skin is red/raw in a few places, his hair on his face/lower part of the back of his head is gone and he is very, very tired. He's been sleeping most of his time away. No one mentions it but you do miss your spouse during all this. In my case he's just become a shadow that walks from the bedroom to the kitchen to try and eat/drink. I miss our talks, laughing, etc.. I know things will get better soon! Ask the Dr's anything you want and even ask for copies of reports and lab results. These belong to you and your husband and you have every right to keep them for your records. They are providing you a service that you are paying for. Did you ask what the Dr's hope to get out of his rad/chemo. Is it to shrink the tumor before they remove it? My husband was young so they went aggressive by removing and doing chemo/radiation. They wanted to really try and kill any lingering cancer cells. I pray they did and this is the last of the suffering Kyle has to go through. Good luck to you! Tamara