Hi Odaat

So sorry to hear of your situation, I think it is actually worse for the family than it is for the patient. I know when I was diagnosed, my husband and family were completely sideswiped. Personally I never felt that my life was threatened (rightly or wrongly I'm not sure) but I think as soon as people hear the word 'cancer' they immediately think death. But it really isn't.

I found that as the patient I needed to talk about it all the time and whist I was telling others that my prognosis was really good I started to believe it.

Your son may be different and it may yet not turn out to be that serious, but if he does get that diagnosis the take comfort from the fact that early detection is the best scenario and oral cancers are very treatable and respond well.

I wish you strength to deal with whatever you have to.

With best regards

Rosie