Are you considering taking a trip to Shady Maple??? As long as your husband has the stamina to manage such a big trip, then you definitely should go. If it is Shady Maple, avoid the crowds by going during the week if at all possible and by arriving between 1-3pm. Thats what always worked the best when I went there for a leisurely meal without lines or crowds. I was recently there in October for my birthday. My son and daughter surprised me by recreating some of their best childhood memories. It was just the 3 of us like it had always been their entire lives and we had a great day with beautiful fall weather

Shady Maple does not give discounts like many other places do when I explain my eating challenges which is why I went on my birthday as it was free. Im pretty sure they always have 4 different soups, mashed potatoes, mac and cheese plus their egg custard or other puddings, overwhelming choices for pies and cakes as well as several flavors of soft serve ice cream and all kinds of pother desserts that are easier for OC patients relearning how to eat.
I dont always pay much attention to where our members are from. Im about an hour and half north of Philadelphia, just outside of Allentown/Bethlehem PA. Ive also heard fantastic things about Longwood Gardens for another memorable activity you and your husband might want to see. Ive heard the Christmas lights are unbelievable! I dont know about any foods there but I was thinking of something other than constantly doing cancer to give you both a bit of a break. For other buffet ideas, you may find some of the better restaurants offer Sunday brunch. Years ago I had a few places in my area I would frequent for brunch. They all always had a great selection of things for anyone, even people who have eating issues can find something they are ok with.
Best wishes with everything!!!