oh my Valerie! I completely get it.

I talked to his oldest son today for 3 hours (he's 31 yrs old). We struggle with how much do you help a person who just attacks you when you are trying to help. My conscience guides me to put up with it and help him but you can only be beaten down so many times. I spend a lot of time with friends and at the coffee shop just for a break.

Someone at church who lost her husband to cancer and now has a SonIL with cancer for the second time talked with me and said she wonders if it's a bit of a man thing as both of those men in her life did/do the same thing. I don't like to put men or women in a category but often we do handle things differently in a crisis.

The thing is, husband is attacking the beloved son now too. We have no answers or direction and when I walk away for a few days, he ends up so sick I have to drive him to the ER. Hugs to you girl....we aren't physically suffering but emotionally being taken down. Cancer sucks.

I've told him that pride is going to kill him before the cancer does.