Thanks for all the ideas and support. His weight isn't continuing to drop, fortunately, but it's just way below what is healthy looking (in my amateur opinion). He mentioned last night that his reluctance to try food is rooted in his attachment to food as a sensory experience. He is a former chef with highly refined senses of smell and taste, so every time he tries food he once loved and it tastes terrible he feels like abandoning it until it's perfect again, which he's starting to agree is not great for his health. I will pass along your suggestsions. Last night, I reminded him again about what a great resource and community this forum is. I hope he will soon give it a try. He is truly a loner type who is inherently leery of organized groups, esp. support groups, but he says he's coming around.

I should mention that we're separated. After his treatment, I found out he'd started sneaking cigarettes and we had just had a baby midway through the treatment. That wasn't all that was wrong with us, but it was the straw that broke the camel's back. I couldn't fight for our marriage anymore. I love him like family, though, and want to support his recovery so he can be a father to our daughter. I wonder if there are other couples like us out there? I should probably post to the caregivers forum.

Thanks so much for your support--
Jennifer

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Former caregiver to husband who is in remission from Stage IV tonstillar cancer (dx June 04)
T2N2bM0
3 cycles induction chemo, followed by 7 weeks daily IMRT with concomitant chemo, then selective neck dissection