I have just received the worrying news that one of my daughters-in-law has breast cancer. Confirmed by biopsy and involving chemo then surgery then radiation so it must be quite serious. They live far away in Cambridge, England. My question for you is how best to support and care? My son wants to research and be knowledgeable and help all he can. I know a lot of you do that. Does it dis-empower the patient if the caregiver does the researching and has the knowledge? Seems like a daft question but he has asked me to provide him with a list of questions to ask the oncologist next week and I'm sort of scared that he could ask the big mortality/survival type questions that she might not be ready for yet. I'd be grateful for any advice.