My father was diagnosed 12/18 with stage 4 squamous cell. He had double bypass at the end of April. He had a mandiblectomy 6/13. He was to have radiation and chemo after the mandiblectomy. He was released 6/25 from the hospital after the mandiblectomy and was readmitted 6/27 with severe infections. He hasn't left the hospital since. He was to start radiation this past Monday. I just spoke to a doctor because my father doesn't want to do this anymore. He says he is tired and needs a break. I get it. I do. It's got to be very scary, frustrating, exhausting, etc. No matter what I want, it's not my choice to make for him. Only he can decide when he has had enough. The doctor said that the cancer is so bad they don't think the radiation will do any good. My father is supposed to come home tomorrow. How have you dealt with a loved one at the end? If you were that loved one, what would you want people to do for you? My father is very angry and depressed. He is snappy. I try to stay calm but eventually there is only so much you can take before you snap at the person you are trying to help. I wish I knew how much time he has until his suffering ends. It's so hard to see him like this.