Janet-just be strong for him! Everyone's experience is different yet they all know what you're going through. Focus on the NOW. My dad is in the beginning of his 4th week and they are delaying his chemo/radiation because his mouth is so bad. MAKE SURE that your hubbie is taking all of the anti nausea meds REGULARLY. I bet your hubbie is turning into a real bear. So is my dad. Get him started and going on intense pain meds-he'll be more relaxed for sure. Fentanyl patch and whatever else you can shove in the tube. My dad is getting his tube tomorrow.
Good luck-the only way to describe this is experiencing hell. BUT, there is light--none of this is permanent.