Thank you so much for the advice. He's told his Mom and Dad that he doesn't want them to visit until he's home...not sure why, but I'll go with it. I'm also taking the advice of one day at a time. My Aunt has offered to come and stay at a hotel for the first couple of days, I will take her up on that offer. My uncle passed away from this disease in his 70's. She knows what I'm going through and she is extremely helpful and resourceful.

Caregiver to husband 53 SCC stage 3 soft palate 2011 Rad, recurrence tongue stage 4 2012 induction chemo, partial glossectomy surgery, cancer back left rad neck dissection 2013, more chemo, allergic to erbitux, cancer back 2014 floor of mouth and jaw, mandibulectomy scheduled 3/5/2014