Hi Lori, the tears come at weird times. I didn't cry when I was diagnosed, or any time leading up to or after my surgery. The first time I cried was when I got home, I was in the shower, and realized I couldn't wash my own hair because I couldn't lift my arms up high enough.

The second time was after the RO gave me choice of whether to have rads or not. I cried when I was telling him I decided not to.

I've cried more writing and reading these posts than any other time, but I have also found it cathartic.

Everyone has different triggers, and sometimes you just need to cry to release the pent up stress.