thanks all. i am sorry if it sounded a bit confusing the way i wrote the post, however, that is exactly how I felt confused. I should say that the Dr that we have been working together with, has told us that we do not have the choice of the neck dissection, we just sit and wait...I just dont agree with that which is why I wrote my post. Wanting to see if there were others who were told the same and the choices and recoveries that occured. Thank you all for your input it is greatly appreciated.