Tammy
This is certainly a confussing time and I had a little different situation and know the confusion you go through. If you primary doctor is not recommeding the neck disection it wouldn't hurt to go to another very qualified doctor and center with your data and get another opinion.

SCC R-Tonsil T2 NO MO Dec 2003. Completed IMRT Radiation only to tonsils(72Gy) and neck(55Gy)March 04. Detected at age 50.