Short answer is NO. Long answer is also NO.

Over half the adult population of America will have come in contact with HPV by the time they are 50. The vast majority of people who are infected manage to clear the infection within 12-18 months. Most people can be infected multiple times and be no worse for wear.

A very small fraction of people (less than 1%) are unable to clear the infection and develop cancer as a result.

Unless your friends took a vow of celibacy immediately following their relationship with you, their normal adult sexual practices will put them in contact with HPV as well as a host of other infections. Some of them will be short term annoyances such as colds or gonorrhea whilst others might be slightly more threatening such as hepatitis or HPV. Either way, unless people are going to lock themselves away and abstain from socialising with other human beings and having sex, there is no avoiding "catching stuff".

To start apportioning blame, or place yourself in the firing line is pointless and achieves nothing. Let your exes take responsibility for their own health and remember that their chances of being hit by a bus are much much higher.

Ambra, you need to take time to think about what your needs are right now and not waste energy worrying about others. Leave the past where it is and concentrate on yourself.

PS HPV infection in the oral cavity does not link to HPV anywhere else so it is no suprise that there is no evidence of infection on your PAP.