Hi there, chiming in. I did not have a tongue surgery, I had a neck dissection but I did go through the 7 weeks of radiation and 3 chemo. Mine finished the end of May, and I am doing very well. Treatment is rough but you can and will get through it. Your life is going to change but on the other side you may find you are very fond of the person you have become. For me the physical changes are minimal when I think of what I went through and what I overcame. Emotionally I like who I have become.
There are many here who have been down this road before you, use their advice and knowledge. We are all here for you. You can do this.

AGE 38 10-2012 thru 3-2012 swollen lymph node,painful jaw and ear,2 antibiotics,X-ray,CAT scan,needle biopsy,scope, no answers
3-4-13 tonsillectomy and selective neck dissection, DX R tonsil SCC,METS to 1 lymph node,BOT,HPV+, stage IV
TX 35 RAD,3 chemo cisplatin/Taxol started 4-8-13
rad end 5-29-13