Hi Debo,

I feel your anxiety and wanting more specifics but as the two other threads have asked for more information in order to help, there is not much more to do at this point.

Unfortunately, without more details it is very hard to assist, other than just offer speculative responses which serve zero useful purpose.

What I can offer about pain in general during period around diagnosis is BOT primary and associated lymph nodes do not generate much pain. Many report no pain or some general discomfort as the tumor grows but not very often real severe pain.

Those with oral cancer of the jaw and other places tend to report more discomfort and pain earlier on.

Please try to not let your mind get any further than the facts you have. You really need to have a real-time discussion with your Dad or someone who he has shared more detail. Otherwise, you WILL go more crazy with worry and such without hard facts.

Even with all the details, every oral cancer case is unique and very complex as there are many variables that define each patient's experiences.

Call again, and again. It is the only way you will be able to get more informed, don