Always liked the statement "Love your enemies, it makes them so damn mad!" Killing with kindness is a good idea. I'm a retired librarian, and when people would insist that they returned an overdue book, or even state that they never had the book, I always be patient and pleasant with them. Nine chances out of ten, they would show up with the book the next day, very embarrassed.

Female, nonsmoker, 70, diag. 5/09 after tongue biopsy: stage IV. Left hemi-gloss. and left selec. neck disec. 30 lymph nodes removed May 20. Over 7 weeks daily rads. with three chemo. PEG removed 12/4/09 Am eating mostly soft foods. Back to work 11/09 Retired 4/1/11. 7 clear scans! Port out 9/11. 2/13. It's back: base of tongue, very invasive
surgery involving lifestyle changes. 2/14: Now speaking w/Passey-Muir valve. Considering a swallow study. Grateful to be alive.