Wendy, this is so sad. I hear you, your heart is breaking right now. How does one carry on without the love of ones life?
A friend once said to me " you will get through this" and so to will you. But, it wont be easy. Cherish your love and your life together and your family.
I will say some prayers for Jim and some for You.
Tammy


Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!