Administrator, Director of Patient Support Services Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Kyrie, welcome to OCF. Im sorry you are having difficulty in adapting to a new way of life after your cancer battle. Its not always an easy road to deal with whats left and pick up the pieces.
I dont have an obturator but have chatted with many who do use one. It is NOT the end of the world!!! Sure things are not as easy as they were before cancer but you can still go on to live a decent productive life. Give yourself time to recover, its only been 6 months so there is probably still swelling and healing going on. A speech pathologist should be able to help you with talking and eating with the obturator.
Many oral cancer patients and even some caregivers have sought out a therapist and also taken anxiety meds to help adjust to their new normal. Its nothing to be ashamed of! Your life has been turned upside down and now you are probably thinking "whats next". A therapist can help you talk this out and see things in a different light. I know its easier said than done and I dont have an obturator but I faced some pretty major hurdles myself with oral cancer. After my 3rd round of OC, I was left very disfigured which is awfully difficult for someone who used to be a very attractive woman. It took alot of fortitude to overcome all the changes and to move on. Even becoming disfigured and having many health limitations it didnt stop me from going out in public with my head held high. No matter what happens in life, you are still the same great person inside. Nobody can take that from you!
Try to find some positives in every situation. First one is that you are alive. Im sure if you look you can find many other good things to focus on to help make your situation easier.
Best wishes!!! ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive |