Kim,

First, I agree with the advice you have been given by the other members. It is all good.

Now, I'm going to be a real a _ _, so I'll apologize in advance if I offend anybody.
You tell your dad that I lost my 29 year old daughter to this disease. She left behind not only myriad family members who love and miss her, but a 6 year old daughter and a husband who is much too young to be a widower.

Your dad needs to get his thyroid checked, get on an antidepressant, then get out there and live life to the fullest. He has the second chance that Heather and many others didn't get. It is a sacrilege to just sit there and let life pass him by.

If after all that, he chooses to still just sit there, then my advice is to get on with your own life. There is only so much you can do for him. In the end, he has to decide he wants to live again. No one can do it for him.

Rainbows & hugs, wink
Rosie

Was primary caregiver to my daughter Heather who had stage IV base of tongue SCC w/ primary recurrence. Original diagnosis August 21st, 2002. Primary recurrence March 18th, 2003. Died October 6th, 2003.