Kim: Welcome to the site and sorry you are having the problems you are with your father. I have to agree with rosie, it is time for dad to get of his butt and get on with life. If he wants to pull the covers over his head and curl up into a little ball, don't let him take you with him. Have him read some of the stories on this site from some of those who have had two or three different bouts with cancer, or folks like rosie and others who have lost there loved one's to this disease, then he may not feel like he has it so bad. You also may want to take him to church. It sounds like he has no belief system to fall back on. Is this what his Lord would want him to do with the extra time He has given you father? Can you dad not think of some positive contribution he can make to his children if to no one else. Is this a good fatherly example? He needs to get his act together and have faith that God has more work for him to do here on this earth. Good luck. Hope things work out for you. Please keep us posted. Maybe we can think of some other positive help for your family.