Hi Ray,
Some people do handle working for the first few weeks. It's just hard to count on until you are in the thick of it. I know what you mean about the commute. Kevin and I just couldn't see how we could do it and be with the kids since ours are all school age. Luckily we had an mo from Sloan Kettering that had opened a clinic here in Elmira. He is gone now, so not sure what we will do for a recurrence if one happens. Have you asked at Sloan if there is any housing available there? I know I have a friend that had a lodge type place for families going through tx. Not in NY though.
If you do induction chemo you could go there, get it done and go home for a couple weeks. You would have to have a doc nearby for emergencies though. If they do chemo/rads together then it would be everyday for the rads and you are right, you'd have to relocate for the 6 weeks or whatever I guess.
Be sure to write down EVERYONE that says they will help. VERY important to have that support for you and your wife.
Blessings,
Kathy