Everyone who has found this forum should consider themselves lucky. They're not alone as they go through their cancer war. Finding this web site late, I only knew one other guy who had oral cancer. This made my search for answers difficult. I had a squamous cell tumor on the tonsil pillar. The tumor was about 2cm but had spread in the soft tissue. Surgery and radiation was the order. Surgery was easy, I slept through it. The radiation was not as joyous. See, you folks are not alone.
All in all, when you look back, it's a life changing event that doesn't seem as hard as when you are going through it. When the docs say that it will take a year to get over most of the effects, it takes a year, not a day less.
I've joined clubs before, willingly. This club no one wants to join. If I can help anyone with their membership apprenticeship, just let me know. Seems there are a lot of great folks out there who can help too. You are not alone and yes, you will make it. Flyboy28n