What a wonderful friend you are Becky. When my husband was in treatment and coming out of it, I asked his sister if she could ask one of her sons to come & help me with the lawns...she said no, so I never asked for help again, not even letting my family help when they offered. I think Christine is right...if you ask if you can 'borrow the kids'....that will give your friend a break to a degree, and quality time with her husband. You are an angel...Bless you.