When your wife comes home from the hospital, she can have a visiting nurse check on her a couple times per week. This should be something arranged at the hospital. There also may be some home health aides who could come help. They can help her with simple things like bathing and dressing. I had visiting nurses weekly for 9 months. But I also had some major complications, most patients will be ok after a couple months. Most will stay 2 or 3 weeks in the hospital. Many will go to a rehab facility for a few more weeks to help them gain strength and to prepare them for being able to go home. The surgery is a big one and recovery is long but since your wife is in otherwise good health she should be ok with this. She hasnt had radiation yet so her healing should be faster than someone who already did radiation. I know its a huge decision to make.

I wish you both all the best with everything!