Returned from Dr .Diagnosed stage 4. Lookng at surgery option as cancer is in left cheek. Affects upper /lower jaw as well as cheek. A 10 hr surgery with all nodes removed. Feeding tube.Followup radiation. He gives it a 40% cure rate. Other option is just radiation/chemo with no projected cure rate. Have weekend to come up with plan. She's in good health but 80 and has reservations galore. Anyone made this decision? All help will be appreciated.

Caregiver to wife with stage 4 oral cancer. Cheek and 2 lymph nodes.Diagnosed April 2012. At age 80 decided against major surgery.Currently doing 9 chemos and then 7 weeks of radiation/chemo.