Tanya, I went through the same surgery. Although I didn't have to have my flap done twice. It took 3 major surgery's before they finally got clear margines which ended up being about 70% of my tongue and the flap. I know the what your going through, the pain, frustrastion, fear, hunger, anger just to name a few of the things we face. My speach will never be the same, I find that the hardest thing to bare, but after almost 2.5 years I am greatful and living life to its fullest. Things will never be what they were, but things are far better than they were in the early days. So take care and God Bless!