Caregivers go through the same thing. We don't have the exhaustion from the radiation/chemo, but the anxiety and depression is huge for us too. I have found that Xanax once a day now and then really is my friend. That and Lunesta to MAKE me sleep!
Hang in there and know we are all here for you!!
Kathy

Kathy wife/caregiver to:
Kevin age:53
Dx 7/15/11
HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R
Non smoker, casual drinker
7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11
PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11
Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14