Jodezilla, One key thing you need to remember is that You run your life cancer doesn't. I went through the same type of surgery as you, I was in for 2 weeks. There were times when all I wanted to do was sleep and nothing else, but thank God my husband got me up & out of the house and back into the land of the living just by doing everyday things.
Everything will work itself out for you as it did for all of us, You are not alone in this fight we are here with you, to help you out in any way needed!!!!
It's All In The ATTITUDE!!!!
Female- Age 49, Non-smoker, I Had 6 weeks of rad/30 treatments, No Chemo.
1/2 of my tongue had to be removed as well as Lymph Nodes. Surgery was 11 & 1/2 Hours long. 40 Lymph Nodes where removed, only one was cancerous.

My Motto since my diagnoses- It's All In The Attitude!!!