Being the one with cancer, I have observed the Caregiver is the one at the Point-of-Pain.

It's easy to be the patient, we're just moved about, told where to go, what to do, we just go into a trance-like period, where we are out of control with what happens.

Care-Givers have very few options to handle the new situation, they have to get thru 'normal-space' as always, perform the normal duties (that have always taken most of lifes' energy), and now must do so while making all the new and Very Scary decisions while their Spouse/Friend/Lover/Partner is undergoing some very scary procedures.

Care-givers are then told to "Get rest, and don't worry, it won't help".
Yeah, well, good luck with that.

GOD Bless you Care-Givers, YOU are who and what we are fighting back to life for.
Thank you.
All.

Last edited by seattlepaul; 02-19-2012 07:39 PM. Reason: spelling
69yo male, Steam Engineer, Me=4,SCC=0, loving wife, living life as it comes (no other option)
We are all born from Mother, but live and die alone.
Make the best of it, Mommie did all she could, daddy was just a guidance councelor, the rest is ALL up to you.
...and now, 3rd occurance: Surgery 5/1/12