I wish that patients who have a devoted caregiver would not feel a moment's worth of guilt for what is involved in being a caregiver. It is a true act of love, freely given.

It never crossed my mind to abandon J or for him to go without me being his caregiver. After 25+ years of marriage, it was the natural choice for both of us. I made the offer as we stood outside the ENT's office, having just received the biopsy results.

But, maybe I'm just a control freak. wink

Sandy

Ex-spouse MISDIAGNOSED with SCC-HN IVa 12/10. Tonsils out 1/11. 4 teeth out 2/11. TX Erbitux x2, IMRT x2 2/11. 2nd opinion-benign BCC-NOT CANCER 3/11. TX stopped 3/11. New doctors 4/11. ENT agrees with 2nd opinion 5/11. ENT scoped him-all clear 7/11. Ordered MRI anyway. MRI 8/22/11 Result-all clear.