Hi Anita,
Thanks so much for your post. I think the problem with my job at the moment is, I left a horrendous job last February and now have a job I love and people who respect me and rely on me. I'm a Type A person, so I hate letting people down or not being able to be at my best. And yes, HR will have to work with me - it's just having to deal with the perceived "loser" label.
And coincidentally, I have a son who lives in Syracuse (2 hours from where we live). And, yes, they sure do get snow!
Your husband is so very lucky to have you. I hope if my husband ever gets seriously ill, I can be as good a caretaker as he has been to me and you have been to your husband.
All the best to you and your husband!