Hi Anita,

Thanks so much for your post. I think the problem with my job at the moment is, I left a horrendous job last February and now have a job I love and people who respect me and rely on me. I'm a Type A person, so I hate letting people down or not being able to be at my best. And yes, HR will have to work with me - it's just having to deal with the perceived "loser" label.

And coincidentally, I have a son who lives in Syracuse (2 hours from where we live). And, yes, they sure do get snow!

Your husband is so very lucky to have you. I hope if my husband ever gets seriously ill, I can be as good a caretaker as he has been to me and you have been to your husband.

All the best to you and your husband!


Age 49 at time of DX. Non smoker, non drinker at time of DX.
T4aN0M0 well-differentiated adenocarcinoma
January 2009: excisional biopsy and subsequent wide excision with a rotational flap and graft reconstruction
June 2009: intensity modulated ratiation - 6600 cGy 33 fractions