Laurie, How old is your dad if I may ask? I know that what he is going through is very rough, and just as tough for the family too. But please tell your dad that everything will gradually get better as time goes on. Yes, it's a slow process (as I am finding out every day, since my husband is still recovering from his treatments)...but things can and do get better! I think most everyone here will tell you that it's ALWAYS hell going through the radiation and it's after-effects, and as far as his neck is concerned - you will be surprised how fast that can heal up. With my husband - his neck looked like a piece of raw meat during the radiation - but I couldn't believe how fast it healed - as good as new, afterwards! The point I am trying to make is that yes...this is pure hell what he is going through, but this is SURVIVABLE and time does heal all wounds (as the old saying goes). Just look around this forum and ask as many questions as you like - you will see many survivors here who have "been there and done that" and are coming out the champion in their battle. Your dad can too!! Tell him we are all behind him and support him - and not to give up! By the way - my husband has lost close to 100 lbs. since he started his treatment back in September. Weight loss is inevitable while going through the treatments, but I'm sure with time - your dad will gain weight and strength back. You just have to have a lot of patience. Believe me, I know. I'm still learning things all the time - and that's why this site is such a blessing - to share experiences and frustrations, etc. So anytime you want to vent or have a question or just want to talk - you came to the right place. Please let us know how your dad is doing in his treatments and above all.....keep the faith!