Laurie-
I am so sorry to hear that your dad is dealing with his cancer this way. I can't imagine how upseting it must be to see someone you love, sort of "giving up". Maybe he thinks that his life will never be normal again and that he will not be the same person again. I do not know from personal experience, but from what I have read on this site and the numerous people I have talked to, he can and will pull through this and yes, there is a high likelyhood that he will be the same person he was before all of this happened. You can see how hard it must be for him to cope because he has only been dealing with this for 1 1/2 mos (think you said diag. in March) and look how dramatically his life has changed just since then. I bet if you give him a little more time to adjust to all of these changes and maybe print out some of the positive things that others may post to you about how well they have done, he will see that there is hope. Maybe at his next docs appt, your mom could call and forworn the dr. about how depressed he has become and the doc could tell him that he will not be like this forever and things will get better. Also, to tell him that he needs to take care of himself so that his body can stay strong and heal. I hope things get better for you and your parents and I hope your dad sees the light in the very near future. He just needs for you to stand by him right now, which I am sure you already know. Whatever he decides is right for him, you have to support, even if you disagree. I am sure you will recieve postings on here from people with some experience with this and they can help you further. My prayers are with you and you can always come here for support. God bless.