Hi there,

Well it is a personal choice. Sure wish people (and Doctors) were more informed of this surgery and didn't refer to it as "barbaric". Yest it is a very extreme surgery but dying from tongue cancer is much MUCH worse than having the surgery and surviving it.
Life will never be the same but it will be much better than being dead. Cancer isn't something you can really bargain with or reason with. It is a disease and if you don't get rid of it it will multiply and spread and kill you. It is as simple as that.

If his cancer isn't responding to the other treatments then it sounds like it his best chance at survival. I am not his doctor and I don't know how advanced his disease is. If the disease has metastisized it may not be helpful to have the surgery.