Mine is a different situation I believe. My spouse deserted me just over a year ago for a younger woman. We are only separated. Nothing legal. Had No previous warning. I thought we had a good marriage, no problems that I knew of. She was a sort of family member in my home almost daily. Since then I have tried to keep tabs on him, because he was already disabled with a spine injury from 40 yrs ago and barely can walk. Not in the best of health when he left. The other woman is staying with him out of the guilt she has, for seducing him and getting him to leave me,and the guilt he puts on her for giving everything up to leave with her. She is not the caregiver type. Now he found out the beginning of July he had I believe ( he doesn't talk to me since he left) Mandibular Neoplasm stage 2. He had 3/4 of his lower jaw bone removed, and reconstructed 7/16 and his teeth. I really don't know his prognosis, or anything past the surgery. He still has a trach, oxygen, and they put his g tube in Fri. 7/26. He may not get to go home, but to a care facility, because of his other health problems. He allowed me to go see him twice, but she started telling the nurses and him lies. So I said I wouldn't go back. So now I'm worried sick,I still love him dearly, and worry about him all the time. And not sure if he's having to go thru radiation and/or chemo after the mouth and jaw heal or what. Can anyone who has possibly gone thru this fill me in on what he has in store ahead of him yet? Any information would be greatly appreciated. Thank you