Kelli,
I had a lymph node appear within a month after my tongue lesion was excised. You're not that far removed from the surgery. I hope that you are having radiation and perhaps chemo following, for then you will have a good chance at cure.
It is normal to feel anger at a loved one when they die, even if the death was not self inflicted. You've had some recent bad events in your life, don't be hard on yourself. If your doctors have not mentioned radiation and chemo, I hope you ask them. You deserve the best shot at a full recovery.
Anne
SCC tongue 9/2010, excised w/clear margins:8 X 4 mm, 1 mm deep
Neck Met, 10/2010, 1 cm lymph node; 12/21/'10: Neck Diss 30 nodes, 29 clear, micro ECE node, part tongue gloss, no residual scc
IMRT & 6 cisplatin 1/20/11-2/28/11 at MDA
GIST tumor sarcoma, removed 9/2011, no chemo needed
Clear on both counts as of Fall, 2021
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