What a heart rending story. A true tragedy. While the Erbitux did not kill me, it did not kill my cancer tumor either.
I see you are from Georgia. My understanding is that anyone from Georgia and other Southern states that have seed ticks should NOT have Erbitux since if you have ever been bitten by a seed tick, then your body has developed antibodies that cause a potentially fatal reaction to Erbitux.
My MO quizzed me about what Southern States I had lived in or hiked in ever. Some posters here had a terrible reaction to Erbitux and they were all from Southern states with seed ticks.
No words can comfort you in this situation.
Charm