Nicky, Christine is absolutely right. I am two years out of surgery and I'm still on morhine 15mgs every 4 hrs, and I just decreased my patch from 75 to 50 to start weaning. This is a HUGE and very invasive surgery. Four months is really not long. I went throught the same thing, I wanted my life back so badly that I thought I should be all back to normal. Well, it takes time and lots of time. I also suffered severe panick attactks and depression. I am single, so my poor daughter of 16 or 17 slept in my livingroom with me for over 3 months. I was petrified to be alone. Also, because of radiation, I went through an awful period of choking on my saliva, it was so bad that I used to choke. Tell him it gets better,Just different stages that you go through, but I promise it gets better