My husband has also decided to give up the fight after nine years and many surgeries and hospitalizations. He has fought with radiation and chemo. He has had a total glossectomy, he has a trach and can not speak. He has a feeding tube and now has difficulty hearing. He just wants to be comfortable and surrounded by his loved ones. Hospice has been wonderful and I feel we have made the right choice for us. It may not be right for everyone. He is resting comfortably in a hospital bed in our living room and not spending his days being prodded and poked.