You are me two months ago my friend. I have been there. Though mine is a hemiglossectomy. You will heal in time and I too hated the trache. Normally they will switch you to a fenestrated trache - hopefully they have, and then after they will remove it completely (I rejoiced let me tell you). I had one node involved as well, and can I suggest that if they offer you chemo and rads take it. Just in case.

Best of luck... it's a long road, but you've travelled a fair bit already. Hugs and healing to you.