Thanks for the responses. I am going to a cancer center and they are familiar with oral cancer. From everything I've heard I will just be having surgery, since it is a very early stage and the tumor itself it very small. The scan that I had did not show it as having spread to the lymph nodes, they are taking the lymph nodes out to be sure that they have all of it.
As far as the tongue surgery, not sure what the official name for it is. They are only taking out the part around the tumor, which is on the left hand side and small <2cm so I should have a lot of tongue left. From what I was told, nobody would be able to tell that I had part of my tongue removed except me and anyone I tell.
Surgery is a week from today. No kids.