Minnie, if we live to be 95 and crotchety old women, we will still think our daughters can't do it without us. Since there is alot of time between now and then- take some time out for yourself - it is obvious that you have taught them how to survive. And one very serious observation here- you are NOT weak, you are sick and need to direct your energies to getting well. This is not a stubbed toe you are dealing with. It goes without saying that your family is frantic with worry for you. Since we are all believers here of one day at a time- I hope you have assigned everyone some part of the Thanksgiving preparations and you will just sit back and rest and enjoy the day. Amy in Oz