To David and Charm, Thank you for your messages and Charm, you are so right - who said that they had candy bars and pop and pretzels while sitting in a waiting room. I had to smile when I read that as it is so true, human nature protects itself even when fighting a battle - honesty is so important when you are asking for help and especially from the one who is trying to help you.

Tom didn't have radiation or any chemo treatments as yet, and we don't know if he will.

The Photodynamic treatment that he had in December is one that disentigrates the cancer cells with a light treatment after being infused with a chemical which makes you light sensitive for a week or so. The procedure is done one time.

Then there is a 3 month period a biopsy is done.

Waiting is so hard, you are hopeful some days and others are such sad days - the winter here is long.