Thank you Christine, Gary and David for your input and kind words.

I did finally get some answers last night about the situation. Apparently she couldn't handle the radiation (not chemo - but might be same thing, not sure) so she only did one then went back 2-3 weeks later (which doesn't do anything). This was two+ months ago. MILs beliefs are a bit wacked (in my opinion and probably every cancer patient too) and this so-called natural remedy is her killing herself in my eyes. She gave up because she thinks radiation damages herself and for some it does speed up cancer (or its just too fast to slow down).

This is a person who was always thought our big screen TV would cause radiation to our children and always wanted the TV off when she was here (note she never got her way) so I never thought to myself she would do modern day radiation. I even told my SIL and MIL 3-4 months ago about a radiation pill and ask the MD about and thats when they said, no medication etc and I said your foolish.

At this time I did find out she is stage 4, and there are no options for her. My SIL informed me once I asked how did they determine it (labs, scans what?) and she said I don't know (again here with go with vague information). I told her if they did no tests then I would get a 2nd opinion because maybe there is hope, just maybe.

She must have dibility hospice and we have to get her signed up for In Home Support Services. The great part is that all of this (including posssibly placing her in a home) is covered by Medi-Care, which shocks me. Her kids hate to put her in a home and for now we will get Hospice involved since they think months and who really knows.

It just saddens me for my spouse, this is his Mother and hard to say goodbye. Life is so precious and fragile and I wish she wasn't so damn stubborn and go with modern medicine. Well thanks for listening and I really honestly appreciate it from the bottom of my heart!