Thanks EVERYONE for your kind words and information! I appreciate all of it. I really do.

Update on MIL, she refuses any/all kinds of treatment, even Hospice (stubborn bird I tell you!).

Yeah MIL owns nothing (but a beat up car) and personal effects that I know of. I think SIL got a POA completed and directive. MIL was in the hospital for a week, and now into a temp. nursing home. They are trying to find her a bed in a assisted living program/home, which could be a week or more. Her kids will have to move her out of her apartment by the end of the month (wasting money on it) and I guess medi-care will pay for the assisted living with her SSA funds she gets monthly.

I believe the tongue cancer has spread to her brain. While in the hospital she complained that her brain was hurting (not like a headache) and wanted some test done (never got the test because by the time they came to do it she refused it). Doctors haven't really said how long she has, my guess is weeks, maybe 3-5 months.

I wished for her grandkids and children that she would have fought this in place of being in denial. It's truly sad, but her life and guess she wants it to be over at 74 years young. Sad to think we are talking about a super active woman, drove herself around mid Nov/Dec and now is facing the end since she wants no 2nd opinion, no Hospice, no testing, no nothing. Her health has gone down really fast!

Thanks for listening. Hope all of you that are suffering, recently diagnosed fight this cancer all the way and WIN! I really do!