Deb - When you and Bob go to your appointment, it might be helpful if you bring someone else with you. Often when we are under stress it's not easy to remember everything the doctors have said and having someone else with you will help you compare notes about what was said or recommended. It's good your appointment got moved up. Also write down all your questions so you can get them answered. When I went to my son's first appointment with the ENT, my daughter was with me and later appointments other people came, too. They can provide support and encouragement just being there. It helps to get names of people that you talk to so you can call them later if you have to. It's good that Bob has such a caring person as you by his side. You can get through this!