I know how you feel about waiting. I first found my cancer in november, and doctors kept insisting it was everything but cancer cuz i was too young for cancer. But they finally biopsied it in march and it came back as stage 3. At that point i think it was 3 weeks later and i had my surgery, and then 7 weeks after surgery i started radiation.
I am glad that your husband has you, i know i wouldn't have made it through if not for my boyfriend. You just being there for him, and helping him out as much as you can, will make a world of difference for him. Even when my boyfriend would break down and cry and just want to hold me, it still meant the world to me, cuz he was by my side. All you have to do is be there for him. I am sure he's seen you cry before, and it won't phase him if you cried now, as long as you are there with him.
I am glad they bumped the date up for bob. Hopefully this will move right along for him from there.
I know i don't have the same location of cancer, but i did have positive lymph nodes, so i know about neck dissection. If you have any questions, just ask.
Also for me, i didn't want to know before i went into surgery what it was going to be like, but i almost wish i found this site before surgery. For me surgery was a big slap in the face, day before surgery and day of, you are normal, and doing fine, other then the pain from the cancer. After surgery, it's like your world is turned upside down. I honestly wasn't expecting it to be that big of a deal. So maybe talk to him about it and ask if he wants some more info on it so he will be better prepared.

I wish you both for a quick as smooth as possible recovery!